Love between husband and wife

 

* 10 valuable advices of Imam Ahmed Ibn Hanbal to his son for a happy married life *

Love between husband and wife is a natural and natural matter, so in such cases it is not said that it is obligatory in the Shariat, or that the Shariat has ordered this thing, but it is limited to its natural and natural state. Goes, there is no need for Shariah ruling.

If a person thinks that married life is full of romantic and flowery dreams and that's it! So he is looking for something that cannot exist in this worldly life, while difficulties, hardships and sufferings have been deposited in the nature and mood of this worldly life.

Translation: Dirtyness is in his nature and you want him to be clean and free of dirt!

If a person calls for a reversal of the cycle of time, he is like a person looking for embers in water.

So, when this became clear and we looked at the real issues of life, we would not see anything in this world that is perfect in every respect and does not have any kind of defect in it, and so much to understand. It is enough that even if you see faults, you do not stop moving forward, but take things forward.

That is why Sayyiduna Umar bin Khattab (RA) said to a person who wanted to divorce his wife:

Why do you want to divorce him?

He said: I do not love him!

Omar: So is every home based on love? Mutual compassion and modesty are also something!!?"

Imam Ahmed Ibn Hanbal (RA) gave 10 advices to his son-in-law on the wedding night

Every married man should read them carefully and apply them practically in his life

*My son, you can't have peace of home unless you adopt these 10 habits regarding your wife*

So listen to them carefully and take action

*First two* 

So women want your attention and want you to express your love to them in clear words.

So, from Time to time, Make your wife Feel your love and tell her in clear Words how important and Beloved she is to you.

(Don't assume that she will understand on her own, relationships always need expression)

Remember, if you are skimpy in this expression, you will create a bitter rift between the two of you that will grow over time and destroy the love.

3- Women are afraid of harsh and overly cautious men

But she also knows how to take advantage of a gentle man's gentleness

So work in moderation in these two attributes so that balance is maintained in the house and both of you get peace of mind

4- Women expect the same from their husbands as husbands expect from their wives

That is, respect, loving words, external beauty, clean clothes and a fragrant body

So always take care of it

5- Remember that the four walls of the house are the kingdom of a woman, when she is there, it is as if she is sitting on the throne of her kingdom.

Never interfere unnecessarily in his kingdom and do not try to take away his throne

To the extent possible, entrusting the affairs of the house to him and giving him the freedom to dispose of it

5- Every wife wants to love her husband, but remember that she has her own parents, siblings and other family members, whom she cannot be indifferent to, nor is it permissible to expect such a thing from her.

Therefore, never allow competition between you and her family because even if she leaves her family for your sake, she will still be restless and this restlessness will eventually drive her away from you.

7- Undoubtedly, a woman is born from a crooked rib and her beauty is also in that

This is not a flaw at all, it looks good in the same way that round eyebrows look good

So take advantage of its crookedness and enjoy its beauty

If she ever finds something offensive, do not try to straighten her out with harshness and bitterness, otherwise she will break down, and her breakup will eventually lead to divorce.

But at the same time, don't follow her every wrong and unnecessary thing, otherwise she will become arrogant, which is harmful for herself.

So be moderate and conduct affairs wisely

8- The disrespect and ungratefulness of the husband is often in the nature of women

If you continue to pamper her all your life, but there is always something missing, she will say this: What have you heard of me till today?

So don't worry too much about his nature and don't fall in love with him because of it

This is a small flaw in it

But compared to that, it has many advantages

All you have to do is keep an eye on them and keep loving Allah and paying your dues

9- Every woman has some days of physical weakness. During these days, Allah Ta'ala has also exempted him from worship, forgiven his prayers and allowed him to delay his fasts until he recovers.

Just in these days, you should be kind to him as Allah Ta'ala has been kind to him

In the same way that Allah removed the worship from him, in these days you also consider his weakness and reduce his responsibilities, help him in his work and create facilities for him.

10- In the end, just remember that your wife is a prisoner with you, about whom Allah Ta'ala will question you. Just deal with him with utmost kindness

Where are those people who continue to make women go to hell for their own benefit, Zini physical torture